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Beautiful ❤️

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All the davening (prayers} on Yom Kippur are collective rather than individual. All the language is "we ..." : we did this, we regret this. we need this, etc.. It is a big communal love fest between us and G-d. My favourite prayer is hacol maminim which basically means All Believe. It is a comprehensive list of all the things Jews believe about G_d and our relationship. It is sung with much joy and gusto. Why do I love it so much? Every Jew (who is in shul), all over the world, is singing the same statement of belief. I always get a little teary when I think of how this prayer binds us together. And Ruben, you got us started. New Zealand is the earliest country that brings in the day. Well done you!

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G'mar chatima tova

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Shame on those people that made fun of your walk to synagogue! I wish I could have seen you. I would have hoed you wheel your dad and stayed for the prayers. I miss my Jewish family. I'm a catholic gal that was married to a Jewish man. I know, you call US names. Tonight I will break the fast with the family I used to call mine! Again. It has been 12 years. I will celebrate my inner jew.

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Yeah...the older I got, the more anxious (or aware) I became of the 'background' noise. It was when Kol Nidre fell on a Friday night that obviously made things worse. Just a small section of the walk but with a huge impact. I admire the Chabad who walk proudly through the streets whenever a new Torah arrives or how they stood unafraid celebrating lighting the Hanukah candles at the busiest intersection in town.

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Beautiful article. Nice remembrance of your dad and your faith. I don’t mean to be rude but is there a reason you purposely leave the “o” out of God? I’m thinking it might be because of censorship? Which of course is unbelievably sad if that’s the case. Either way I really enjoy your writing.

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Thank you. The 'o' is from my upbringing in Jewish schools and Sunday classes. I was always taught never to write G-d's name in vain, hence the missing o.

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Yes. I too. That's how we were taught. Thank you for asking, Nikki Richard.

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Oh wow, thank you for letting me know! I’m Christian and had no idea. It’s a beautiful reason. Thank you for both for being so kind.

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We write, or say, Hashem, which literally means The Name. In this inclusive forum however, G_d it is.

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I too love getting lost in the melodies and rhythms of our ancient prayers at a small Chanad congregation in Glasgow (Scotland), though I understand but a wee bit of Hebrew due to my dad thinking it was unnecessary for girls to study the language. Wrong! Gradually, I am learning more. The puzzle pieces are fitting together and my depth and richness of understanding grows accordingly.

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Chabad!

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One of my funniest "Jewish" moments ever happened in Auckland more than a decade ago. I was in town for business and was out partying with a native Kiwi pal. We ended up in a strip club downtown. It was not particularly hopping and the girls were no match for the weird quiet that descends on a mostly empty strip club. It was a Saturday night. I was looking around at the oddly formal architecture and saw a Magen David glass window. I realized the building at some point had been a synagogue. We roared with laughter at that.

The next day my friend and I were having dinner with his wife and mother-in-law. They asked how I was liking New Zealand and I said I was enjoying it very much, had in fact been to shul the night before.

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Must have been Las Vegas on K Road.

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Quite possibly! I just remember a couple of recent grads from St. Cuth’s who were out having a naughty night….

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Great article.

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Sorry guys this year I prayed to the G-d of vengeance.

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Holidays are all about family, that’s really #1. Great piece!

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This is a beautiful post.

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Great writing. Very heartfelt. Im sorry about your Dad!

I’m a Buddhist married to a Jewish for six years now, this was my first time attending Yom Kippur though. I do not understand Hebrew and usually get lost in (melancholic) way my reform cantor sings. In Calgary, Alberta Canada, we go to a reform synagogue. Orthodox would not appreciate queers like us!

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Beautiful!!

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I’m sorry anyone ever made fun of you and your family for going to a religious service! Shame on them. 😡 Glad your father found acceptable place even at his age. 🙏🏻 Mine was a preacher. I still miss him at church. That empty chair he used is hard to see sometimes. God bless.

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Now I understand why Jews always say when someone dies or is killed….. may his memory be a blessing….. I’m glad your dad’s memory is a blessing for you

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